... set squarely in the middle of a crown-to-be. The one day crown that I'm working towards now.

Again, I found myself at the birthday party of a one year old. Sigh. I have yet to go to one that something random and disturbing did not happen at. No fault to the birthday boys or girls.

My dining companion across the table turned out to be the close colleague of Former Husband.

We figured this out quickly.

And oh, the beautiful things I said, gentle gracious tender, lovingly about Former Husband, knowing full well that Colleague had no idea why the marriage ended. Knowing full well that Colleague had the "your fault" look in his eyes.

Gentle gracious tender. Surprisingly, also, genuine.

I woke up this morning feeling grateful for this moment this day this life. I'll take these feelings of thankfulness over the alternative (!) any day.


  1. t i m on October 6, 2008 at 8:13 PM

    At least you didn't have to next to the former husband - always look for the silver lining. ;)

  2. Aminta on October 6, 2008 at 10:30 PM

    Lisa, sweetie, I full well understand those feelings. I was not and am not as gracious as you.
    As I share my story, I feel the need to be honest to help others out..... I would love to know why you are not in that place anymore. Are you okay???! I do understand the pain of going through a break-up or a (must I say it) divorce. It simply put, Sucks. Stinks. Sigh.
    I have been at both ends of the spectrum. I have been through a break-up/divorce and I have watched in horror as my parents split after over thirty years together. It never stops amazing me the pain one can experience with this.
    I am so sorry for what ever it is you have been through, and who evers "fault" it is. Because I know that it is painful both ways, being the one at fault and being the one not at fault.
    God be with you, and know that God loves you and cherishes you.
    HUGS and LOVES!

  3. Chelle on October 7, 2008 at 9:34 AM

    Once again there is the proof of God's power and your life.

    You are to me, the poster child of the grace of God and this post proves it once again.

    How easy it would have been to just set that close colleague straight.

    When it's most excruciating, you demonstrate the true love Jesus...gentle gracious, genuine...I feel the healing he has done and is doing in your heart in the sharing of this tender little story.

  4. Anonymous on October 8, 2008 at 6:25 AM

    A sapphire? I think this one earns the Hope Diamond my lovely friend. You are the epitome of grace and it is coming back to you. God is rewarding you for your diligence by giving you the desires of your heart and soon....I feel it! You know what I'm talkin' about!!! Perhaps in your new adventures the soon will happen.

    I love ya like you were my own flesh and blood.

    I couldn't be more proud of you right now if you won 8 gold medals at the Olympics.

  5. Fairlightday on October 8, 2008 at 5:50 PM

    Lisa, I think you are one of the most gracious people I know. You are amazing and I take my hat off to you. He will never know what a jewel you are and all that you deserve.
    Hugs to you dear friend. I promise that I would offer you a safe dinner party. :)

  6. Kylee on October 9, 2008 at 8:17 PM

    I really dislike that look that people give to me. Every time I say that I am in the middle of a divorce, they give me that look and then I feel compelled to tell them what happened. A shorter condensed version of course. But, I have come to the point where it is what it is and I don't need to tell my side. God knows my heart and they don't.
    So where is the school located at that you are applying to. I am glad that you are doing this and that you aren't worried. That is how I feel about next year and applying to jobs. There are only two jobs opening up next year and I know about six people that are going to apply for them. So, who knows what will happen. But, I am not worried which is strange for me. I am person that worries about everything and I am a numbers and budget person as well. So I am right there with you.
    I still need to reply to your message that you wrote me on facebook. I will get there, I promise.
    Hope you enjoy your evening off. Love you.


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